Keeping us waiting at a bus/metro stop, bringing their friends along for support, ordering for us and going dutch definitely don't make them dating material. We have a tattoo, enjoy a drink or two and hang out with your friends, so we must definitely be ‘easy,’ right? His mother: Nothing and no one ever supercedes the Indian mother. The ego: Studies have shown that larger the ego, smaller the appendage. Arranged marriages: You will never be the one he marries because after all mommy insists on an arrange marriage for her prince.
And just because we went on a date, doesn’t mean we've devoted our lives to being subservient to your feelings and choices! The unrealistic expectations: Yes, we went on a date with you. No, it is not all right to presume that we will sleep with you, marry you and produce offspring for you. Honestly, we don’t know where you got your education, but you need to go back for some common sense. The talks: "It is not a relationship baby, it’s ‘so’ much more than that." This one is for the oversmart Indian men. We might be the prettiest, talented, richest, kindest people on the planet but we have to be approved by ‘mumma’ first! The smell: Indian men think that body odour is acceptable. In fact, studies also show that men who honk a lot are sexually frustrated beings. Love, feelings, freedom of choice and thought really don’t matter!
The white women in their 20s and early 30s who I know don’t seem to have any problem.
Tricky and dangerous at the same time, here are 20 things you must know about dating an Indian man. The looks: When it comes to Indian men, it is hard to differentiate between a glance and a venereal stare. The wooing: Can someone please correct the definition of wooing for these men?
What's more, their eyes are talented enough to scan a female body within microseconds. Just for the record, wooing does not involve cat-calling, ‘that’ creepy smile or talking in a way that makes it so obvious that our breasts are all that's on your mind! The not-to-smooth moves: We wish Indian men would buy themselves Dating for Dummies already!
Wearing the same clothes day after day gives is plain disgusting. Etiquette: Opening doors, dropping us home, waiting till we're dressed... And just so you know, you'd be foolish to expect a 'Please' or 'Thank You.'13.
To add to our misery, most of them also recycle their underwear by wearing them inside out. The spitting and pissing syndrome: We've seen men stop their cars in the middle of rush hour traffic, open their fly, pull out their appendage and piss on the road in full public view. Sex: Coming from the land of Kama Sutra, we are ashamed to admit that Indian men know nothing about the female body, let alone are aware of what to do in bed. Anti-friends: Why are they always scared of meeting our friends? His caste: You're both not the same caste, so it's not working out?
But I don’t understand why two people – no matter where they are from – can’t fall in love.
And why the colour of their skin or where they were born should be any concern to anyone else but themselves.
He felt the same way and for a few weeks we dated, spending every possible moment together getting to know each other.
In the end, I don’t know what will happen with us and if we have a future because we live very far away from each other – but two interesting things happened while dating an Indian man for the second time since moving to Bangalore that have really made me stop and think … First, it was great to realise that not all Indian men are afraid to be with a white, divorced women for fear of what their parents will say.
If you are a regular reader of my blog I’m sure you will be happy to learn that in January – after about 18 months – I finally met a SINGLE smart, handsome Indian power guy (ahhhh the best kind!
) who I basically fell head-over-heels coo coo for ‘at first sight’ and we started dating.
well, it was a nice change of pace to be with someone who told me he had no issue with that at all.